“Our lives are defined and valued by our Leaning Moments.”
-James Sarvis
One of my books I am writing is called, “Leaning Moments, the DNA of love”. The title of that book came to me from a woman I met along my journey. After explaining to her my philosophy, and the power of leaning, she said, “You know James, you really have discovered the DNA of love, and you wouldn’t have to change a word, whether you were talking to a doctor, or a truck driver”.
So, what is the DNA of love?
It really is simple. I want you to grab a piece of paper, and write down 3 people that it’s EASY to say you love. Rod Stewart has a song that says, “the words I love you rolling off my tongue.” That’s the kind of love we are talking about here. I can guarantee that those are the people with whom you have “positive predictability” for Leaning Moments with.
A man that I knew well, is a great example of this for couples. Every single day, as soon as he got home, he went straight to his wife and gave her a hug. As a result, not only did the wife benefit from her Leaner husband, but the children did as well. Subsequently, they created Leaners that created more Leaners, and so on.
Think about when you see a dad at the park, really leaning to his child, pushing them on the swing, or leaning with his arms stretched out, waiting for them to come down the slide. I bet without knowing anything else about them you would probably say “awe, he really loves them”. Leaning is an action that creates, what we think of as, that practical love.
Leaning Moments help build a foundation that people can grow on. Therefore, without that strong foundation created from a Leaner, kids often spend much of their life searching for what was missing, and this keeps them from moving forward.
The Beatles say, “All you need is love, love…” But I would add, love created through Leaning Moments, is all you need.
These articles are co-written by James and Elisha, based on the books and work created and founded by James.
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